I would call myself a girl from the royal city of Patiala, where I spent most of my childhood. It is an erstwhile princely estate situated in Punjab, North of India, celebrated for its larger than life picture, phulkaris, prandas and the infamous Patiala peg. However, I have had the opportunity to experience life in other vibrant cities of Punjab like Amritsar, Jalandhar and Hoshiarpur, all belonging to different geographical belts and offering diverse cultures. Therefore, I am a true Punjabi at heart.
What is the greatest thing about the place you call home?
Home is not where you live but it is a place where you grow and flourish!
For me, home has three different connotations to it- spiritual, emotional, and physical. Spiritually, I feel at home when I am at peace with myself and when I am able to embrace my thoughts.
Being an emotional person, for me home is where my family and friends are! So being with my loved ones makes me feel at home. Answering it in a more pragmatic manner, physically I live in a big joint family at a farm house in Punjab with my husband, son, and my in-laws where my only neighbours are the staff members that help us lead comfortable lives.
What turns you on creatively?
People and conversations form the crux of my writings, be it poetry or essays. A soulful conversation provides me with my food for thought and my pen the piquant content to write about. At times, I find myself building up prose and poetic sentences amid a crowded space where people are busy with their own mundane lives and daily chores. Having said that, my solitude forces me to overthink and pen down my thoughts providing an outlet for venting emotions. The magnificence of Mother Nature too forces my creative juices to flow.
What is your favorite word, and can you use it in a poetic sentence?
My problem is I have too many favourites. In fact, I try to find beauty in everything. At an early age, I was taught by my mother that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder and this adage has shaped how I perceive things.
Therefore, however hackneyed it may sound, I can’t refrain from using the word beautiful in my speech and writings.
on the window of my half lived life I sit waiting for the next half the starry night marrying the melancholy of my plight suddenly, the sun sends a ray of hope to wake me up to the future bright and I foresee the beautiful sunflower blooming under the carpet of my eye!
What is your pet peeve?
Fakery is my biggest pet peeve as I dislike people who are pretentious and manipulative.
One should be straightforward about relationships, work, and themselves and should possess the courage to own their mental mess.
Also, laziness puts me off. I think all of us are here for a purpose and it is our duty to figure that out and work towards fulfilling the purpose of our lives.
What defines Nazam Riar?
That’s a tough question and I can’t limit myself as being defined by only one aspect of my personality.
I love to address myself as a people person, an agony aunt, a hardcore romantic, a happy go lucky person, and a dreamer. Besides, I believe who you are is defined and deciphered by the way you treat others, especially those who don’t matter in your lives.
I am constantly looking for music in the mundane as I believe that “the world has music for those who listen.” A self – confessed people’s person, I love to read and write poetry that speaks mostly about human mind. An avid traveler & explorer, visited around 25 countries across different continents for leisure. Worked as an Assistant Professor in Computer Science in a reputed college in Punjab, India and now working as a Personality development trainer with a Bangalore based company. Published more than 30 middles in newspapers of national repute and three books on poetry and prose - “Confessions of a Happy Woman”, Notionpress 2017, "The Quirky Wallflower and the Silent Bumblebee", Authorpress 2020, "The Solitary Sunflower in my Bageecha”, Authorpress 2021.